Wesley Deeds, Tyler Perry's character, was the oldest and considered to be the good son by his parents and peers. He was engaged to a somewhat selfish real estate agent, who was more about herself and keeping up this image. He gave up his dream when his father groomed and had him take over the family's multi million dollar software company since no one thought his younger brother Walt, played by Brian White, could handle the responsibility. (Let me just say that Walt was an ass and Brian White played him oh, so well!) His mother, played by Phylicia Rashad, had high expectations for Wesley....marriage, kids, career.
The movie isn't bad...predictable like most of his movies. Its not believable because as someone who kind of keeps up with the celebrities, we know Tyler Perry is not attracted to women so it was easy to tell that the heated scenes with Gabrielle Union and Thandie Newton were practically forced.
What caught and kept my attention throughout the movie were the expectations Wesley faced from everyone around him. He couldn't say no to his mother because she expected him to be successful, he was his brother's keeper and with his fiance, he is just a safe bet due to his predictability.
I understand the thought of not wanting to say no so that other people won't get upset or feel as though you have to be that dependable person since no one else will. Its the parents or other family members, friends that are much like Phylicia Rashad's character who don't see that they are forcing that one person or persons to live up to these high expectations. Its when the person has taken on such a burden that they snap and walk awat that they realize one of two things:
- Maybe we should back off and let them live their lives
- That person is just rebelling...they'll come back
I will leave with the words of Raymond Hull:
He who trims himself to suit everyone will soon whittle himself away.